A very famous Love Guru Guy Finley once said,
Having expectations is very natural. After all we are no Aliens. We are brought up that way. Since our childhood, there are lot of expectations our parents have from us. Our parents expect us to score good marks. Behave well in front of an outsider. Show manners and etiquettes in a party. But I would say, all those expectations were for our own good... Isn't it ?
Coming Back to expectations from your beloved. Expectations from your partner. Expectations from you Relationship. Having sky-high expectations sound great however when the expectation is unfulfilled, we bitch, we moan, we become disappointed. That is a problem for most people. The Question is Why Do We Expect ?
Let us get into a girl's mind:
And After all that bitching and hue and cry going on in her mind for her boyfriend... she maintains her calm and poise... Looks perfectly normal and a big smile on her face that conveys " Oh Love! this is wonderful "... poor boyfriend doesnot know, what a devil she is... and what all she had been thinking...
Let us get into a Guys mind:
Now you see what the guy is expecting... and Girl has her own wishlist... Bas ladai shuru aur kya???
If you dont agree, then you are lucky, that eirther of you gives up the desire to see your partner smile...
These are just petty issues... Problems toh isse bhi badi hoti hain...
But the question still remains unanswered... Why Do We Expexct...??? Cant we just give space to our partners and do what they like...
We often expect our love partner to make the best choices for themselves and our relationship and when they are not our choices, we often get angry or disappointed. . . or both. Most people call this situation a problem: a problem we create by our expectations.
Try this: "No expectations, fewer disappointments!" It's that simple. No... I am saying not easy. But Simple.
It is important to allow your love partner the freedom to fulfill your needs in their own best way.
What you can be with in life lets you be!
"Blaming others for the pain we feel each time someone fails to live up to our expectations is no different than burning our tongue on coffee that's too hot to swallow, and then calling our cup an idiot!"
Well... What Guy Finley said was sooo right... I feel it now, after I got married to Love Of My Life, my wonderful Husband.
Having expectations is very natural. After all we are no Aliens. We are brought up that way. Since our childhood, there are lot of expectations our parents have from us. Our parents expect us to score good marks. Behave well in front of an outsider. Show manners and etiquettes in a party. But I would say, all those expectations were for our own good... Isn't it ? Let us get into a girl's mind:
- Oh... Valentine's Day is coming, I hope he gets me that Big Teddy we saw the other day at Archies... Ummm... He might do something special... I know he is planning lot of stuff for me... Hmmm... it will be so much fun...
Girl's Reaction... (Remember She will never tell the following things on guys face) What... This is It...!!! He did not plan anything special for me... Without caring much about the card that says 'ILOVEU'... A small teddy... Am I a Kid... ??? What a Cr@p... Sh*t!!! He is so dumb... Not at all creative... Is this all he can do for me... HunH!!! Chocolates...? He wants me to hog and get fat... What kind of boyfriend is he... Aaaaarrrrgghhh...
And After all that bitching and hue and cry going on in her mind for her boyfriend... she maintains her calm and poise... Looks perfectly normal and a big smile on her face that conveys " Oh Love! this is wonderful "... poor boyfriend doesnot know, what a devil she is... and what all she had been thinking...
" aur phir ladki apna gussa kaise kaise nikalti hai... boyfriends se behter kaun bata sakta hai... kyonki woh toh kuchh kahengi nahin... but expect karengi... ki woh khud hee samajh jaayen... aur agar nahi samjhe... toh Boss!!! solid class lagegi... "
Let us get into a Guys mind:
- aaj toh match hai yaar.... Sachin ka toh mahashatak poora hona hee hai... yeh toh match dekhunga main... !@##$ main dekhta hoon kaun rokta hai Sachin ko aaj... apni bandi ko ghar hee bula leta hoon... saath mein dekhenge match...
Now you see what the guy is expecting... and Girl has her own wishlist... Bas ladai shuru aur kya???
If you dont agree, then you are lucky, that eirther of you gives up the desire to see your partner smile...
These are just petty issues... Problems toh isse bhi badi hoti hain...
But the question still remains unanswered... Why Do We Expexct...??? Cant we just give space to our partners and do what they like...
We often expect our love partner to make the best choices for themselves and our relationship and when they are not our choices, we often get angry or disappointed. . . or both. Most people call this situation a problem: a problem we create by our expectations.
Try this: "No expectations, fewer disappointments!" It's that simple. No... I am saying not easy. But Simple.
It is important to allow your love partner the freedom to fulfill your needs in their own best way.
What you can be with in life lets you be!
When you know what you need from your relationship and can express those needs to your partner and be okay with allowing them to love you the way they can love you, you will see a shift in your relationship that goes far beyond what you ever could have imagined!
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